Letters to a workplace bully
Workplace bullying just doesn’t seem to go away. Workplace bullying is a complex issue that can’t be fully explored in a blog – yet I hope this post goes some way to giving strength to those being bullied. To know they don’t deserve to be bullied, to know as human beings they are worthy of respect and dignity, to know they have the right for the bullying to stop.
You are in our offices, in our workplaces.
You are there between colleagues….up, down and sideways.
You are there in person, on the phone, via teleconference.
You are everywhere.
From us. The ones you’ve hurt, tortured, destroyed.
How do you live with yourself?
Is it just innocent fun? Is it OK to take your pain out on others?
Didn’t you realise people die, families suffer, careers and reputations are destroyed because of you?
Us. P.S. We hate you.
How do you choose your victims? It’s hard to know who is safe.
You target people of the wrong gender, height, religion, sexuality, age, profession, ethnicity, pedigree. The wrong anything. Maybe just for being in the wrong place.
Surely you’ve realised by now.
It doesn’t matter who you are.
I’m prepared to bully any of you if the circumstances are right.
You are all my victims.
The big “B”
“Who am I really?” You ask. Well, honestly, I’m you.
I am anyone who saw someone being bullied and did nothing.
I am anyone who says: “The victim probably deserved it” or “The victim is imagining things”.
I am workplaces that turn a blind eye.
So I’m you. You let me in. You invited me in. I am you. All of you.
Don’t you see each person is a diamond?
What’s wrong with you, can’t you see you need to stop?
Don’t you see we are all people of worth and value? Don’t you see we all deserve respect?
We are hereby putting you on notice.
We, all of us are in this together. We will fight you with acts of kindness, respect, compassion, looking out for each other, standing by each other’s sides, and plain human decency.
Each act of kindness you do for another strengthens good in the world, increases light in the world. One small spark of light banishes a great deal of darkness.
So we’ll stand by each other and form a wall you can’t get through. Together we will banish you from our midst. So pack your bags. And don’t say we didn’t warn you.
All of us. Together.
Read more about workplace bullying:
- Workplace Bullying “We just want it to stop”.
- Fighting back: workplace bullying in Australia
- Workplace bullying: Violence, Harassment and Bullying Fact sheet
- Guidelines for workplace prevention of mental health problems
- Working Together: Promoting mental health and wellbeing at work
There is help available if you are (or think you are) being bullied. You can try:
- Talking to your manager or HR department. or call the EAP program in your workplace (if there is one)
- Contacting The Australian Human Rights Commission (1300 656 419)
- Or, if you are feeling very distressed talk to your doctor or call Lifeline (13 11 14)
Please let me know how this post has helped you and please share this post with anyone to whom it may offer hope or encouragement.